Why Do People Split Up

My friend @ryrik knows better than anyone the answer to that question
— both are just fucking done!

This short but succinct phrase explains a lot and simultaneously
explains nothing. Yes, even with love and respect, relationships run out
of steam. People are too lazy to be with each other. In general, real
relationships are distinguished by happiness level. Any kind of
relationships. Both romantic and platonic ones. When you are healthy,
rich, handsome and in love, sometimes it just becomes boring.
Any relationship, even the most successful one, can become weary at
some point. And that’s okay. People meet and spend time together
with only one goal — to realize their own goals… Whether it’s to create,
give birth, continue the family legacy, and so on. As a matter of fact, the
essence, the real essence of the relationship, without implementation,
almost always remains unknown. Everything is primitive. A person is
trying to unconsciously get to know himself through another person.
Not everyone succeeds though, since there is no time left for this.
Therefore, a divorce occurs eventually.

Recently, the internet users have been shocked by 2 high-profile
breakups/divorces. The first one was a couple with a multi-billion dollar
fortune, and the other was an influential couple as well, which obtained
a serious position in the internet blogging community. Let me tell you
just how glad I am, when people know how to part in a civilized,
respectful, and decent manner. Without a pig drama performed for the
whole world. Without seizures and exposing their emotions to the
public. Yes, people adore searching for some “dirt”; you are not a pig to
feed them with dirt though.

Nevertheless, sometimes people start to lose a sense of reality. Let me
provide an example for comparison. All of our cyber-internet-blogger
space is like numbered squares painted on the pavement. You willfully
jump from one to another, thinking it’s a game, while everyone around
is observing you. You jump from one square to another like a fool, and
your rivals aim to jump over you. You get angry, you lose, you win. And
then it gets dark and you go home.

Frankly speaking, I wanted to devote my text not to answering the
question of why people get divorced, but how. Sometimes, divorce is
inevitable. As in my example above. Indeed, how do people feel about
their divorce? I don’t want to offend anyone, but the lower the level of a
person’s spiritual development, the dirtier their divorce would be.
Naturally, it is always more difficult for a cowardly, deceitful, insecure,
envious, and greedy person to “let go”, so I applaud those split up
couples, who continue to raise their children without publicly attacking
each other. With the ability to respect oneself, a former partner, while
accepting the idea of “whatever happened — happened”. This is not an
easy task which can rarely be accomplished, yet it’s possible. In fact,
public divorces that offer big drama to the society raise suspicion in me.
It is definite that this is a union of two completely “lost” people, who
aim to outwin one another by “jumping on the squares”. And then
when it gets dark outside, they head to bed. Such people seem utterly
empty to me.

Divorce, breakup, separation, etc. is a natural process. If one
understands it and decides to solve it peacefully, life can become much
easier.

Don’t confuse “jumping on squares” with real life. And happiness will
come to you!