Advice for the Young

Never thought before that I would give advice. I have always avoided such fate. It seemed to me that a person should know everything himself. Now, after many years, I am already a woman with some experience, so I have reached the stage when my opinion may be interesting.

So, advice for the young!

If you are not over 25 years old, you can be forgiven for anything. You can make mistakes (sometimes on purpose), and nothing would   happen to you for it. What one can get away with when he’s young would be unacceptable when he becomes an adult! Hence — meet   new people, have (safe) sex, get to know yourself and others. You are 25 and you still don’t have a boyfriend??? So what? It’s actually a good thing! You don’t need a guy when you’re 25! When you’re 60 — that’s when you need a guy. This is the age when “the guy” can be appreciated! There is a grain of irony here, of course, but do not forget that you will also be 60 some day. And if you have not figured out this question before turning 60, then you are a loser.

You are 25 and you need a boyfriend to feel like a stone wall?! Be aware that any stone wall has a back side. Your position would be shaky until you become a stone wall for yourself.

You are 25, you can hardly open your eyes by 12 pm, and you do not know what to do with yourself? Have the rest of your girlfriends already given birth? And therefore, they do not immediately answer your question. No, no one has forgotten you, it’s just that there is simply no time left to spend with you. Do not blame your friend for not giving any love. In fact, don’t be jealous of her. She may not be in the best position either. Start going to bed early. Get up even earlier. After 25 years have passed, the aging of the body begins. The correct daily routine would help you look young, be active, and still want a guy at 60. At 60, wanting a guy is much more pleasant than at 25 (based on an opinion poll).

You’re 25 and you’re bored? It’s a terrible symptom. First of all, when you are 25, you can’t be bored, and second, if you are indeed bored, it implies only one thing — you are an extremely boring person. And not only for yourself, but also for others. Moreover, entertaining people like you is not such an easy task. So, start working on yourself as soon as possible. Otherwise, loneliness would be your most reliable companion. You can have phenomenally high self-esteem, you can have legs from your ears, and the face of a young Ornella Muti, but if you’re bored — it’s over. Because it means YOU ARE BORING! The guys would be able to entertain themselves for a little, 5-7 minutes max. Those who are older, for 12-17 minutes. In the best case, they would choose you as their “hen” and perhaps put you in a golden cage, but is that really necessary??

High expectations. Oh, how much time it took to work “with a rake” to understand that it was not worth inventing or visualizing a partner. No one ever really knows what your partner should be like. Do you think he should be dark-haired? And then, in some magical way,  you sleep with   a ginger-haired guy, and you like him. You become surprised yourself.

Who would have thought?! You realize you really like him, like this actor

from the Russian TV series “Uni”, only with this guy you would go down the aisle? Well no — you’d probably go with someone who can remove all the crap out of your wonderful head first.

You’re 25, and you’re working hard to “fit in”? Do you constantly think about how to please others? Parents, boss, friends? First, you can’t please everyone, second, no one would appreciate it, and third, you would fall into a trap. You would become a hostage to other people’s ideas, thoughts, and desires.

Set YOUR own goals, live based on your own desires. Pay attention to your own education. Even if you are not 25, but 60. Do not buy coursework, diplomas, etc. “The Crust” would not help you prosper, nonetheless, the real knowledge would. Smart people would always be able to see whether you bought a diploma or not. Whether you studied or not. Furthermore, study what you are passionate about. If you aren’t passionate about anything, then simply don’t study. Work. Work harder. Even if you are uneducated, hard work ennobles a person. In fact, according to some people, hard work can turn a monkey into a human.

© Masha Lopatova