Childlessness

Sometimes I wonder why the universe does not give children to various women and couples? I have a bunch of such examples. Maybe there is a reason behind all this.

You also probably have an example of such couples or women, who you watch from the side. Maybe, you feel compassionate towards them, but you never sat down, took a deep breath, and analyzed why things like that tend to happen. It is clear that after each unsuccessful attempt they looked up and grieved: “Why, why, why!” – and you along with them …
Oddly enough, I myself had to go through this experience, and after giving multiple births and becoming completely done with this topic, I ultimately understood why.

First of all, the universe has a more accurate understanding when and for whom the right moment is to have children. Throughout life, we barely contemplate why we need children. We give birth simply because we need to, because everyone else does it, because your sister already has three kids, and so on. Or we do it just because we set this as a certain task.

Every individual must fully acknowledge why he/she needs a child. I believe that occasionally a child is perceived as some kind of achievement, which can be identified with material things. And maybe that is exactly the problem. A child is not even a flower or a tree, it is not even the largest diamond in the world. A child is a state of soul!!! A child is this pure light, it is your “mirror” —but not at all in a primitive understanding when he is like you — in a completely different way!!! He is the continuation of your vices, weaknesses, cowardice, selfishness, vanity…

For some individuals, personal growth must be accomplished without a child, and when the universe realizes that a person has grown, a baby will be sent. And for others, the universe determines that the child should be given as an opportunity for personal growth. Someone has to go a certain way to obtain it.

Certainly, for every woman the inability to conceive is a big stress, because nature has granted this function to every female, and society also exerts pressure on her. If a woman cannot get pregnant, she tends to get seriously upset, because how else could she give birth?! Sometimes, the inability to get pregnant causes depression and mental disorders in general. For most, this is an excuse for overthinking and winding up. Instead though, it would be ideal for this to be a reason for a thorough reflection. It is terrible that a woman owes birth not only to herself, but also to her husband, even if she is unable to. In short, a woman has a complex mission – she must give birth in order to take place as a person in the society and be perceived as a real woman by her man.

Consequently, I as a person who has traveled a certain path in search of her kids, I can say that there comes a point when a woman must work on herself to learn how to let go. This is an extremely valuable feminine quality (as well as a universal human quality). Learning to let go of ANY thought, either the most intrusive or the most mindful one, is a phenomenal skill. Because any obsessive thought itself is not healthy and energetically doomed to failure. As one proctologist likes to say, “learn to relax! And everything will work out!”

© Masha Lopatova